Where's Rich Queen?

Haven't heard Rich Queen in a while.... anyone know where she is or has been?

She was helping take care of a friend with cancer, who passed away last night. She was in the room for a bit earlier today.

Rich Queen you are in my pryers. I know what you are going thru right now. Wish I could be there for support. My prayers and spirits are with you. You are a true part of Gods Family to do what you have done for your friend and keep your mind on serving God by helping. My thoughts are with you. God Bless You

I'm so sorry to hear that... Rich Queen, we just prayed for you and your friend, may you feel His comfort and love now.

Oh. So sorry to hear that Rich Queen.

You are loved! Hope you can come cheer us up here shortly...Or maybe we can cheer you up!

My deepest sympathies Rich Queen. I know only too well the loss you suffer and the pain of the journey you traveled with this dear friend of yours. Blessings and prayers.

:( :( Rich Queen I am so sorry... :( :( They really need a hug emoticon in here. I am glad you were there for him when he needed you the most. You are a great friend and know its true meaning. More people should take after you in that way and truly be a wonderful friend in action not just words. I am sorry RQ.

***Hugs***
Cathy

Rich Queen,
Your friend went home...finally. I pray you feel your heart full of the Love Light you gave to your friend, for as we give, we shall receive. Love never dies, it just changes form...but then, you already know that! God bless all of you who cared deeply for this soul.

Thanks for all of your warm thoughts. I am helping my friend's daughter deal with her father's things. I would love to end this with an RV, so I can throw my friend an epic farewell party. He would love that. Plus, I could use a massage!

I saw a post a while back where Rich Queen explained who he was - which is a Black Man? He is a real gem of a person and I trust The Lord will take him through this time of his loss... A cancer death is a really tough one expecially when you tried to help the person so much and really didn't want to see them go... I hope the person was a Christian and went home to be with The Lord and I hope Rich Queen watched til the very end which can be exciting when The Lord sends someone to take the person home. Dr.'s that deal with death understand what I just said and it is really something special that happens as you watch the person seeing into the next world as they make the transition. I just got all excited thinking about it...

God Bless you Rich Queen and I do believe you will be able to do that party - we only have a few days...

Peppermint Patti wrote:I saw a post a while back where Rich Queen explained who he was - which is a Black Man? He is a real gem of a person and I trust The Lord will take him through this time of his loss... A cancer death is a really tough one expecially when you tried to help the person so much and really didn't want to see them go... I hope the person was a Christian and went home to be with The Lord and I hope Rich Queen watched til the very end which can be exciting when The Lord sends someone to take the person home. Dr.'s that deal with death understand what I just said and it is really something special that happens as you watch the person seeing into the next world as they make the transition. I just got all excited thinking about it...

God Bless you Rich Queen and I do believe you will be able to do that party - we only have a few days...

Darlin' if I'm a man then my husband is in for a BIG surprise!!! Last time I checked I still had all the girly parts I was born with. But thanks for the kind words. I actually was happy that my friend passed as he was in so much pain and his body needed to be let go of. I missed the very end, but I did hold his hand and helped him not to be afraid.

This is me for those of you who don't know what I look like: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vfkOdio74nQ

Where's my fave song RQ!?

Catherine wrote:Where's my fave song RQ!?

Which one?

The one I said was my fave LOL!

Thank you Rich Queen - you are really very beautiful outside and well as inside... God Bless you and I hope you have plenty of Dinars and really enjoy the RV.

Rich Queen wrote:

Darlin' if I'm a man then my husband is in for a BIG surprise!!! Last time I checked I still had all the girly parts I was born with.

:king:

Don't remember which one you said you liked, so here's two.

Hurricane Heart: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=25Whnc3iU8c

And Naked In The Rain : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jU1eG8GW3XU

Yeppers~the rain one 8)
It will be stuck in my head again!
I will be singing it doing laundry n stuff! ♪☼♫

Fantastic videos RQ!!

I am sorry to hear about your friend...sending prayers & hugs

Rich Queen: I have a family out here in dinarland of 500 praying for you and your dear friend who just crossed the veil. My father just went into hospice, and when the time has come, it's wonderful to be with them, and so hard to say goodbye on the earthplane. May your heart be soothed by fond memories, and the knowing that life goes on into that space where the full potential now can expand.

Bless You for who you are...Love thyself,
Cosmickid

YOU R N OUR PRAYERS

Here's another lesson I can share with you out of this experience with my friend. Only hours after he passed the vultures started to descend. I had to guard his things until his daughter arrived. We are about to come into money. MAKE SURE YOU MAKE A LIVING WILL, AND TRY TO HAVE SECURITY STANDING BY IF YOU KNOW YOU ARE TERMINAL. People can be so greedy, and you want to make sure your possessions go where you want them to after you're gone.

RQ, so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear friend. Prayers to you and his daughter/family.
Our strength and love goes out to you in the days ahead.

If we can do anything for you, please don't hesitate to let us know ...
we're only an hour away in socal.
Karen

While I am very touched by all of your messages of comfort, please understand - I am very comfortable with death. I always have been. My friend now knows how much I cared about him if he ever doubted it. That means that when he died, we were "complete". It is my experience that people only experience anguish and a horrible sense of loss when there was something left unexpressed or unsaid. Once the person is gone there's no chance to "complete" any undelivered communications, so the survivor feels ripped up and un-whole. i learned to do this when I was very young, and as a result I usually celebrate the passing of a soul I love into the freedom of the next realm - I know I'll see them again, and that time we spend here on earth is but the blink of an eye in comparison to eternity . . .

My friend was suffering and in a LOT of pain. I did what I could to bring him love and joy in the last week of his life, and I held his hand and helped him to accept that he was indeed dying that last day, and not to be afraid, and told him I loved him. He knew he was loved and that he mattered. So I am totally at peace with his passing, and grateful that God sent me here in time to help escort him on his way with strength and love, which is exactly what he needed. His other friends shied away from his stubborn arrogance. No one stood up to him to insist he accept help, and as a result he was in a pitiful state when I got here. Unwashed, wearing urine-stained clothes, hopelessly over-medicated, and barely eating. I was probably the only one who could stand up to his stubborn tantrums and make him face reality - which was that he needed to stop being prideful and accept help. To realize that he could no longer control his own life - he was far too sick. And most importantly that accepting help was the same thing as accepting LOVE. Sadly I got here too late to possibly prolong his life. Plus he had declined extremely rapidly over the last month or two. Hopefully in the last hours of his life he learned what his pride had cost him, and he was able to face himself with the truth instead of the denial he had lived in blindly for decades. No one but me would give it to him straight. Well, some tried, but I am the only one he would take it from. He loved me, but I also intimidated the stuffing out of him (I joked with him when he would give me attitude, pointing out I had braids on my head that were longer than he was, so he better pipe down)! ! And he knew my motives were pure when I gave him no-nonsense talk. I articulated the whispers he held back in his mind - the things he was afraid to face. And I think that's what good friends are for . . .

I made him accept that he was indeed dying (I don't blow smoke up my friend's behinds, and he had been trying to deny it to himself, despite the fact that he was skin and bone, on oxygen, and could hardly walk anymore - he looked like he was 80 years old), and to let go and let it happen. He was out of time - no more procrastination and thinking about "what he was gonna do someday". And he heard me. He thanked me for being there for him like no one else had, he even said the day he died that he was in awe of me. When he said he was afraid once it really hit him I told him not to be and reminded him of what he had to look forward to once he shed his broken body. And I told him I loved him and I was right there holding his hand. Cleaning him up when his bodliy functions started to go was done with love, compassion and dignity, and he knew that the hands of someone who loved him were bathing him, not someone paid to do it. He prayed to The Virgin Mary (he was born in Mexico, a Catholic), and I stroked his head until his whole body was in too much pain to be touched. I held the bag under his mouth as he vomited blood, and wiped his lips gently afterwards so he wouldn't feel like such a mess. I was just doing what comes naturally to me, but it made his last days a lot more pleasant than his last months had been, and had I not been there on his last day I don't know WHAT would have happened. So I am content. I feel like a karmic contract made long ago between us has been satisfied. And while part of me wishes I had gotten here sooner, I realize that he walked his own path, and right or wrong he went out when he was supposed to based on the decisions he had made in his life.

I'm no angel, and those of you who think I'm special for doing this I don't really understand why. Have we lost our humanity so much that giving comfort to a dying friend is considered extraordinary, especially since I am well-trained as a caregiver and medical assistant ( first did it 35 years ago when my grandma had a massive stroke)? I just did what any feeling human being would, or SHOULD have done. Treated him the way I would want to be treated and cared for the last week of my life if I were alone and dying. Maybe I will inspire some of you when faced with the same thing. Seeing someone off to the next plane is a profound privilege, and I highly recommend it.

"For everything exists and not one sigh nor tear, one hair nor particle of dust, not one can pass away." - William Blake

Your Love, Support, and Dedication to your friend is a testament to your Loving Spirit.

Your efforts afforded him the honor of letting his physical existence end with as much dignity as was possible. Rich Queen, you are indeed a very compassionate soul and your rewards will be many.

Now get that Crown (out of the bottle) and celebrate his life and your friendship! :queen: